Do you believe that happiness is a choice? You might say “How can I be happy in my current situation?”. Well, it’s not the situation that makes you depressed, but your own decision to be depressed. When you lose your wallet, you can choose to curse all day (cursing the one who may have found it, perhaps?) or to simply feel grateful that no one has used your cards yet and cancel them quickly.
To win the battle on your own mind, these thoughts have to be stopped:
1) Stop being negative
Stop thinking of the negatives and find the positives of EVERY situation. It may not be easy, but sometimes you have to “force” yourself to think positively, even though things may not turn that way. If you see a friend throwing away your birthday present to the bin secretly, instead of being angry about it, put this thought instead: “Oops, I guess he/she doesn’t like my present but he/she’s good enough to do it secretly so not to hurt my feelings”. It may sound weird, but if you can maintain this positive attitude, you’ll live happier! You’ll feel positive about other people and more importantly, about yourself!
2) Stop being analytical
I’m analytical. I love to analyze a given situation and sometimes I have my own thoughts about it. The problem is, the analysis is based on what I know or what I’ve heard or what had happened in the past. Often when I see or hear something, I’ll make an answer/story from my own thoughts. It’s scary and it’s dangerous! It’s even more dangerous if you think that you have always been right so far with your analysis. It means that you are going to create your own story of a given situation (or people) and you’ll always think that it is the truth, even if it is not!
3) Stop trying to find out the real answer
There are things better not knowing. That is not an excuse for being ignorant, but you need to take a step back if you always want to know other people’s business (what they eat, why they do certain things, etc). Stop listening to other people when they are on the phone! Sometimes it’s better if you don’t know what you shouldn’t know. Ignorance is a bliss and it is true!
4) Stop being judgmental
No body’s perfect and that includes you. If you think that other people can be so bad or annoying, so can you! The difference is that their “weaknesses” are not the same as your “weaknesses”. If you think that you are better than the others, think again! You may not do what they do, but you may do what they don’t do!
I used to be very pessimistic about people and myself. I had no confidence in myself and felt that I was a loser and being left alone by my friends. After reading a Christian book titled “Battlefield of the mind” by Joyce Meyer, I really learn that the battle is not in life itself, but it’s on your mind (at least, it starts there).
Have a positive attitude in whatever you do, whatever the result is 
Have you won any battles with your mind ?? Are you able to use Positive Thoughts to stop negativity from troubling you ?? Tell us about your success in the comments
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I do believe that Everything is a choice – sometimes conscious and sometimes unconscious – but it still takes a lot of effort to stay focused…
I am happy about this article. I have weight loss blog and I know that one of the hardest things during weight loss is to think positive and be motivated.
I will stay intouched.
It’s glad to know that my article helps. Just when you thought of giving up, don’t! Never give up
and be grateful all the time
@ Michael – yup sure, It does !! Yeah, you are right, being grateful makes us feel satisfied and happy. I have a post coming up on gratitude soon
We know that ‘No Pain No Gain’ so it’s important to overcome the sadness and be positive as you mentioned in the post.
Oh yeah! when you think about giving up at the last moment, you find the turnover; strange but true!
A positive “Can-Do” attitude will get you through anything. It can increase your mental limits and open up places in your mind that you’ve never been to. Staying positive is the hard part. We all need a little inspiration or motivation to stay on task. Someone who has helped me to stay positive is Dr. Norman Vincent Peale. His book, “The Power of Positive Thinking” has helped me through some tough times. Great Blog by the way, and a wonderful article.
Yeah, I think gratitude means being positive about things. Positively thinking you can overcome the everyday obstacles life hits you with. If you keep doing that you will realize that you are happier than you were in the past. It takes time and effort but it is well worth. You have to keep talking positively with yourself whenever a negative situation or thought arises. Thinking positively is a habit. Life is hard enough but you cannot let life’s ups and downs break you because you are a human being and a spirit, so keep listening to your higher self and ignoring the rest of the distractions around you. The truth is that life is too short to not want to live it happily. There is not one person who does not has problems, but it is up to the person to make a decision on how he/she wants to live his/her life.
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